Spiritual Self Care: The Self Love Tarot Spread; Affirmations and Crystals for Self Love
Why Is Self Care Important?
Success starts with self care. If you neglect your needs, you will find yourself struggling in all areas of your life. It'll impact your self esteem, relationships with others, and even your physical health. That's why it's important to take time for yourself and make sure you're giving yourself the attention you deserve. Here, we'll explore how you can create your own self care routine that can leave you feeling energized, motivated and whole.
Your happiness and success depend on your holistic health, an important component of which is your spiritual health. In the same way you take care of your body and do things for your mental health, so too must you support your spirit through self care, including alignment of chakras and the casting out of negative energy.
In reality, we are not robots wired to think positive thoughts all the time. That's why need support from the spiritual world to meet us halfway. You get out of it what you put into it, which is why it's important to stick to a self care routine that elevates your vibration and instills deep sense of self worth within you. Over time, you should seek to constantly feel unconditional love towards yourself.
Your Inner Child
Your inner child is one of the deepest part of your being. It's the purest form of "you" existing within your unconscious mind. It's the you that was before all the social conditioning, trauma, labels, embarrassments, and so on that warped your behavior. It has absorbed everything you have heard and saw since you were a baby. Even though now you can steel your face and act stoic in the face of upsetting words, for instance, your unconscious mind still hears them and is hurt. Most of the time, people neglect this aspect of themself. Deny it the attention it needs. It's in no way weak (in fact, it's a display of strength) to mend to the part of you closest to your soul. With the use of the spiritual tools outlined here, make sure you give your deepest self the loving, motherly treatment it deserves.
Tarot Spread for Self Love
Tarot is largely rooted in self care. It's about connecting with yourself on a deeper level so you can understand what your own needs truly are. Then, it gives you the guidance you need to come into your power and create joy in your life. This Tarot Card spread will do just that. It will help you push away negative thoughts and call to mind the positive ones that remind you that you deserve love. Take a look at the card layout:
What you're feeling right now
What you should be proud of
How you can honor yourself today
What you should be grateful for
Something you can be doing better
Something you're neglecting
How you can soothe your emotions
How you can raise your vibration
The first card in this self love Tarot spread speaks to your feelings at the present moment. Sometimes when things get fuzzy it can be confusing to make sense of your thoughts and feelings. Meditate on the card that emerges here and try to understand the energy you find yourself in. For example, should the eight of cups emerge, it would suggest you are avoiding some deep psychological problems that are gnawing at you.
Plain and simple, the second card will give you what you should be proud of. This is wonderful when you're feeling down, because it's easy to lose sight of the good things in your life when you focus on the bad. You may have made a positive impact on the world recently that you haven't given yourself credit for. Whatever it is, you'll find it here.
The third card in this spread is about honoring yourself. In self love, it is highly important that you show respect and appreciation for yourself. The guidance from this card will be more actionable than the previous to. It will alight your mind with a way to give yourself the respect you deserve.
The fourth card indicates a blessing that you may be taking for granted. Happiness is inherently rooted in gratitude, so taking a moment to appreciate positive aspects of your life will make your world that much brighter.
For the fifth card, you should honestly assess whatever it's telling you. Part of self care is self improvement, so this one now challenges you to be better. Even if you are at a low point, happiness is sparked by progress. Doing better for yourself is a profound act of self love.
The sixth Tarot card points to something you're neglecting. Maybe you're abandoning yourself by not taking care of your needs. Or maybe there is a responsibility you need to attend to but have been procrastinating instead. Either way, it provides helpful insight for your self care.
Tarot card seven is perhaps the most straightforward for your self care. It offers guidance for what you can do to quell any anxieties and negative emotions you may be harboring. For example, should the six of swords emerge, that would suggest removing yourself from a negative situation that you may be in.
The final card will help you shine. If you have been truly open with your deck and have a clear flow of energy, this Tarot card will be something like a prescription for your spirit. It will give you a sign of action that you can take to brighten your spirit moving forward.
Benefits of this spread
This spread is great for opening up your heart space to remove negative energies and self doubt. No matter how you feel, it forces you to recognize the great things about yourself and build your self confidence.
It's easy to have a rough day or week and fall into the trap of beating yourself up. You'll only focus on things that went wrong in your life recently and miss the bigger picture. It happens to everyone, but elevating your spirit demands that you keep your self esteem up even in these times. That's exactly what Tarot spread is the perfect tool for.
When to use it
Use this Tarot spread whenever your sense of self worth feels diluted, or you are struggling your self acceptance. Don't discard the meaning of the positive cards, do a close search within yourself and truly internalize that you are great in the ways that emerge in the spread. And even if there is an area you feel you don't stack up in, remember that self acceptance is about having self love for both the good and "bad" things about yourself.
When everything in your life seems to be working against you, this spread can give you a sign of good things soon to enter your life. It seems to be the rhythm of life that things are darkest right before a major breakthrough. That's why it's great to use the Self Love Tarot Spread to come into your inner strength and radiate self love!
Which crystal is best for self love?
There are a variety of powerful crystals that you should considering including in your self care practice. Any master healer you talk to will recommend that you have at least a crystal or two to connect with your chakras and bring alignment throughout your nervous system. Here, we will especially consider the heart chakra since the heart chakra most directly relates to self love, but all of your chakras have an affect on your state.
In the discussion of crystals, it is also worth mentioning that crystals are excellent for creating balance among yin and yang. A balance in yin and yang energies helps promote good mind, body, and spirit.
How Stones and Crystals work
Over time, stones and crystals make an impact on your life by slowly edging your vibration in a healthier direction. For example, a stone that resonates with your solar plexus chakra can increase your confidence and self-belief. Quartz crystals in general have strong vibrations, so a clear quartz crystal, for instance, can activate your crown chakra, and your crown chakra influences your other chakras. Like everything else, it's all connected. But, to keep things simple, start with a stone or crystal that speaks to you, and over time you can accumulate more.
Each crystal and stone has unique properties, vibrating on a unique frequency and tying to a specific chakra. Here are some of the most popular crystals and stones used for self love:
Best Crystals for Self Love:
Red Jasper
Red Jasper connects with the root chakra and is great for grounding yourself. The healing energies of this stone stabilize your emotions and give you a strong foundation for confidence. It's an excellent stone for self love because it will calm the raging storms in your heart and in your mind. This is also useful to improve relationships with the people around you, because you it will make your emotions more steady and open. This stone may also offer you a smooth boost in your general emotional state.
Carnelian
Carnelian is a unique stone that is helpful for breaking out of a slump. It connects with your sacral chakra and provides stimulating energy. It can flood your mind with creativity, and your body with newfound motivation. When you are feeling down, the energy of Carnelian can snap you out of it with a jolt. Thus, it is a great stone for self love.
Smoky Quartz
Smoky quartz supports the release of emotional baggage. When you are weighed down by pent up negative energies, the healing power of this crystal will help lift the weight off your shoulders. It's one of the best crystals for when you can't seem to get out of your own way and is quite helpful for self care. Smoky quartz crystal is common among healers for that exact reason. You will surely find the gentle energy of this crystal to lift your feelings toward yourself.
Rose Quartz
One of the most powerful crystals for self love is Rose quartz. Rose quartz is a great crystal for self love because of the soothing nature of its energy and influence on your feelings. You will find that its feminine energy can draw out love for yourself that may have been restricted. It is also one of the best crystals for cleansing and ties to the heart chakra and also the throat chakra (definitely don't underestimate the power of a heart chakra stone in self love!) Of all self love crystals, this one is perhaps the most thorough.
There are many other crystals that may work better for you, or a particular stone that catches your attention. That's great! This list is just to provide you with a starter list of staples. As you expand and acquire more crystals, you can hone into whatever best suits you.
Affirmations for self care
Internally, subconscious does not know the difference between saying "I'm clumsy and make a fool out of myself" or "I am in my power and I love myself." It simply absorbs whatever it hears as true. Externally, affirmations affect your vibration and spiritual wavelength. If you demonstrate self love, you exhibit that energy into the Universe, and it will return you more love. Do not estimate the healing power of raising your vibration to emit positive emotions.
If you see yourself as having high self worth, everyone else will notice that confidence and see the same. The Universe, too, will pick up on the energy you put out and align your life with things on a similar wavelength. If you engage in self care and show the Universe that you value yourself and treat yourself with respect, the world around you will value you too. The opposite is also true, which is why we must align our vibration with joy, happiness, and positive energy.
Try taking one affirmation from this list, and saying it 10x when you wake up, and 10x right before you go to bed, every day for thirty days:
I love myself
I am proud of the person I have become
I am unstoppable
I am worthy of love and respect.
The Universe loves me and watches over me.
These affirmations will directly boost your confidence and raise your emotions. Within 30 days, the healing energy of this self care practice will illuminate newfound opportunities and successes in your life.
Putting it all together
Here, we've covered a lot of incredible tools for self care. The Tarot spread above will be one of the most powerful ways to act in self love. The stones and healing crystals will supplement your own Self Love readings and affirmations. With these three spiritual aspects, you are going to be unstoppable! So, integrate these practices within your routine, and watch how much your life changes in just a few weeks.
Light and Love!